Bullies come in every shape and species. I was walking my shelter mutt, a Chow mix when we were accosted by a pedigree terrier. The dog’s owner was ranting about my walking my dog. She was yelling something about walking my dog in my neighborhood. I’d never remembered seeing this woman before, since I knew many of the dog owners. I was really having trouble hearing, because her loud dog kept barking. I kept walking as my dog ignoring the whole thing finished her toilet break, and was heading home, pulling me along. When I reached my driveway which is on a slight incline, I was looking down on the woman and her loud dog. I took the opportunity to tell her to get off my sidewalk, and walk her dog in front of her house. The expression on the woman’s face when she realized not only was this “my neighborhood” but that my dog lived in house was probably better than hers – priceless.
It seemed this woman did this intimidation tactic with other mixed breeds dogs. Until us she’d probably got away with such action. My dog did not give one minute of interest, not one sniff. According to Stop Bullying.gov, there are several definitions of bullying, most agree that bullying involves:
- Imbalance of Power: people who bully use their power to control or harm and the people being bullied may have a hard time defending themselves
- Intent to Cause Harm: the person bullying has a goal to cause harm
- Repetition: incidents of bullying happen to the same the person over and over by the same person or group
All the celebrities and public service announcements are not going to stop bullying. Bullying is a common and grim problem that can happen anywhere, at any time to anybody. Bullying is not restricted to certain age, race/ethnic group or gender. It is not a phase children “have to go through”. It is not something one out grows. Bullying causes serious and lasting harm. Perhaps the problem of not stopping bullying is that people don’t even know what bullying is when they see it.
Bullying takes many forms including and occur every single day – a thousand times per day. Most recently the internet was ablaze with the nasty banker who left a 1% tip for a $133.54 with a note that said “get a real job.” “Get a real job”, what does that mean? Were they on a movie set and the whole lunch staged? A joke?
According to United States Department of Labor, Occupational Employment and Wages, May 2010 – 35-3031 Waiters and Waitresses there were 2,244,480 employed individuals. That’s a lot of people who need “a real job.” The website reported:
Source: (DOL) Annual wages have been calculated by multiplying the hourly mean wage by a “year-round, full-time” hours figure of 2,080 hours; for those occupations where there is not an hourly mean wage published, the annual wage has been directly calculated from the reported survey data.
Although being a waitress qualifies as a “real job” as defined by the Department of Labor, just how was the idiotic banker going to get his food. It was a full-service restaurant, not a fast food restaurant with a drive-thru. Without that waitress, that man would still be sitting at a table wondering when the food is coming.
This article points out the behavior of some of the people in the 1% of society. Mitt Romney, who is a Republican candidate for president, made a remark that echoed the banker’s behavior.
- Verbal: name-calling
- Social: spreading rumors, separating people from the group, breaking up friendships
- Physical: hitting, punching, shoving
- Cyber bullying: using the Internet, mobile phones or other digital technologies to harm and/or intimidate others.
Numerous websites providing information regarding bullying. There are several publishing site that regard the information as duplication. Perhaps that’s the problem. We are so politically correct and copyright fearful, we can’t repeat issues and examples that need to be out in the public’s’ face.
It’s easy to understand how a bully can be describe as a person who –
- Was never required nor took responsibility for their behavior
- Wants to enjoy the benefits but not accept the responsibilities that are a prerequisite for being part of the society
- Renounces and negates responsibility for their behavior and its anti – social consequences
- Unable and unwilling to recognize the effect of their behavior on others
- Unwilling to exhibit more beneficial ways of behaving
One of the news latest bullying stories is Woman: Priest denied me Communion at mom’s funeral because I’m gay. Priest doesn’t apologize, but archdiocese does. The letter apologized for the “lack of pastoral sensitivity.” “The self-righteous never apologize.” Leonard Ravenhill
Experiencing bullying or violence because one is lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender (LGBT), or others think you are LGBT is a growing trend. According to StopBullying.gov, “Young LGBT people may be more at-risk for bullying. Compared to their heterosexual peers, some LGBT kids, teens and young adults are at increased risk for bullying, teasing, harassment, physical assault, and suicide-related behaviors.” The risk is very apparent as we listen to 2012 presidential candidates. Several individuals validate by their comments and views that LGBT are less desirable citizens.
The trial recently started regarding The Suicide of Tyler Clementi (2010): Tyler Clementi had a college roommate Dharun Ravi. Ravi and his alleged accomplice, Molly Wei who is now a state witness, enjoyed putting Clementi’s homosexual experiences on the Internet for all his Twitter followers to watch. Clementi was sickened and humiliated. On September 22nd, 2010, Tyler jumped to his death from the George Washington Bridge, NYC.
Do we legitimatize the bullying of lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender (LGBT)? People are willing to listen, donate money, and elect individuals to Congress and the Presidency that bully. Congress passed the Defense of Marriage Act in 1996 that prohibits giving recognition to same-sex marriages. At the time the decision received extensive approval among Americans, with many citing morality and religion as the primary consideration behind their decision. As of the latest Gallup poll of May 2011, it showed 53% of Americans saying same-sex marriage should be legalized with all the same rights as other marriages, vs. 45% saying it should not. Things have changed in more than 10 years, 21 states covering more than 100 million Americans chose some form of marriage equality. Seven states have same-sex marriage.
- President Obama has been a staunch supporter of gay rights.
- President Obama signed the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” allowing gay men and women to serve openly in our armed forces.
- President Obama signed the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act into law.
- President Obama’s administration was the first to provide hospital visitation rights to same-sex couples and declared the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional.
- There is a timeline to learn about all of the steps President Obama has taken for LGBT equality since taking office.
- Mitt Romney has tough stand against gay and lesbian marriage and opposing most of their petitions seeking rights for these groups.
- Romney is against letting gays and lesbians serve actively in the US Military.
- Romney has expressed support for the Federal Marriage Amendment which would modify the US Constitution and prohibit same-sex marriage – separating people from the larger group and citizens.
- Newt Gingrich opposes domestic partnership benefits for same-sex couples.
- He wants a constitutional amendment to protect the traditional family
- Gingrich believes that same sex couples should have some sort of legal rights so that they can leave their estates to their partners or visit them in the hospital.
- Gingrich believes that homosexuality is a sin. He thinks that same sex couples should not be able to adopt children.
Republican presidential candidate Rick Santorum defended his infamous 2003 comments on homosexuality and “man on dog” sex. Countless saw it as lumping homosexuality together with bestiality. The remarks led to widespread criticism from Democrats and Republicans. Verbal bullying: name calling or Social bullying: spreading rumors? Excerpt from Santorum interview As a result, syndicated sex columnist and LGBT activist Dan Savage began a campaign to turn Santorum into a sexual neologism, following anti-gay remarks by the then-Pennsylvania Senator. Rick and Karen Santorum in a Huffingtonpost.com article alleged that the gay community has been attempting to vilify her husband by portraying him as a gay-hating religious bigot. Bullying is forever!
Asked his opinion by Bailey, Sarah Pulliam (2011-10-10). “Q & A: Ron Paul on Leaving the Episcopal Church, and Whether to Legislate Abortion, Narcotics, and Same-Sex Marriage”. Christianity Today. on same-sex marriage, Ron Paul replied, “Biblically and historically, the government was much uninvolved in marriage. I like that. I don’t know why we should register our marriage to the federal government. I think it’s a sacrament.” In the same interview regarding whether he would vote for or against a state constitutional amendment like California’s Proposition 8, he said, “Well, I believe marriage is between one man and one woman.”
“‘Ron Paul Unplugged’ interview with John Stossel”. ABC News “20/20”. 2007-12-07 interview, Paul said that he supported the right of gay couples to marry, so long as they didn’t “impose” their relationship on anyone else, on the grounds of supporting voluntary associations.
In this scenario a group of teens and preteens listen to their parents discusses political candidates, political parties, personal views, upcoming elections, and interests. Parents discuss how they agree with the views of this or that individual. Just who is going to impact the youth, the celebrity public service announcement or what parents have to say about a group of people?
President Barack Obama has himself been a victim of bullying because of his race and skin color. Governor Jan Brewer throwing her finger in his face and then saying she felt threatened – by a Black man or the President? Definition of bullying – Imbalance of Power: people who bully use their power to control or harm and the people being bullied may have a hard time defending themselves. President Obama has been accused of not being born in America. He has been under continuous inquiry to produce his birth certificate, something that no other American president has had to endure.
President Obama’s religious belief continues to be a topic of contention, as he is constantly labeled as a Muslim. Newsmax.com reports that its correspondent witnessed then Sen. Barack Obama attending one of the Rev. Jeremiah Wright’s anti-white sermons on July 22, 2007, and nodding his head in agreement with the black congregation. The Trinity United Church of Christ on Chicago’s South Side is not a mosque. The report stated that Obama spent “two decades of close ties to Wright.” So what’s the real deal – anti-white Christian, Muslim or just plain old incidents of spreading rumors?
Repetition: incidents of bullying happen to the same the person over and over by the same person or group. President Obama is often compared by members of the GOP as another Adolf Hitler, leader of the Nazis. In view of the African-American history of being buried in unmarked graves under roadways and building as landfill, burnings, beatings and lynchings of Black people that’s a bizarre statement.
Groups like the Tea Party stated, “We want our country back!” What does that mean? Did the country move off the continent of North America? Should we move back to the days of racial segregation and black oppression? Orange County Republican Party Central Committee Member, Marilyn Davenport, sent an email that she deemed hilarious on April 15, 2011. The offensive email depicts a family portrait of apes, with President Obama’s face in the place of the infant ape of the family. The photo has a caption at the bottom that reads, “Now you know why no birth certificate.” Funny hahaha!
2010 annual report released by the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) revealed a slight rise in the number of hate crimes reported by law enforcement partners. Hate crimes directed at individuals because of race, religion, sexual orientation, and national origin all increased slightly – with a significant increase in the number of reported anti-Islamic crimes.
“Hate, Violence, And Death On Main Street USA,” the National Coalition for the Homeless and the National Law Center on Homelessness & Poverty found that attacks against homeless people in the United States rose to almost 15% from 2006 to 2007. According to the report, almost 65% of the criminals of attacks on homeless people in 2007 were teenagers between the ages of 13 and 19.
Supervisors will pick on employees, and make life miserable for the outsiders who deal with hostile verbal or nonverbal interactions at work. Some businesses normalize bullying by indicating that it is acceptable either by covertly allowing managers to join in the bullying or by failing to intercede. These actions suggest that targets of bullying should toughen up. Other companies mislabel bullying as personality conflicts. Distinctions of workplace bullying range from a worker spreading rumors about another employee to a worker physical attack on a co-worker.
A Policymaker’s Guide to Hate Crimes states some of the more typical examples of hate crimes in the U.S. include lynchings of African Americans, cross burnings to drive black families from predominantly white neighborhoods, assaults on white people traveling in predominantly black neighborhoods, assaults on lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people, the painting of swastikas on Jewish synagogues and racist responses to a variety of minority ethnic groups.
So bullying is forever as long as there is intolerance, ignorance, racists, bigots, abuse, hate crimes, or restrictions on people’s right and physical movement. If the President of the United States can be subjected to bullying – Bullying is forever!
My husband and I took much time to investigate our new neighbor before buying. The neighborhood is middle class, and populated with whites, Blacks, Asians and Hispanics. I personally spoke with the Community police officer to get information on any crimes and/or incidents. I really felt like punching my white neighbor in the face when she threatened me with a home invasion. I’d tell you her name, but we never got to introductions. She stopped on the way back from the mailbox and say, “I want to come into your house.” I said excuse me. She turns to her husband and says, “MAKE her let me into her house!”
Make me? MAKE me? Really? How are you going to do that? Yes, I was the angry Black woman.
As I turned to look directly into her face, I realized she was just stupid. Her husband on the other hand realized he could really get hurt if he listened to his wife. Clearly this woman had diarrhea of the mouth and constipation of the brain.
Kids will get beaten up on buses, and chased home. At risk people will be bullied wherever and whenever the occasion arises. Religious denominations will think one is better than another instead of being one in God together. Political figures/groups will discriminate, divide and attempt to conquer the citizens. The latest underdog will be bullied. Duplication of the information and incidents should not restrict the information and incidents from being published. We pass around hundreds of silly emails – Bullying is forever!