A Circle of Friends

Today starts the first day for the rest of your life for many people.  With all the affirmations and resolutions, we maybe saying goodbye to friends and co-workers.  This maybe the time to move on from some relationships. The evaluation takes time. You should think about your circle of friends individually.  You don’t have the same relation with all your friends.

Sometimes it feels impossible to find someone who’s right for you — and who thinks you’re right for him or her!  So when it happens, you’re usually so psyched.  Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and understands,  and would never challenge — the other person’s boundaries.  If you are feeling contolled or put down, it maybe time to move on.  If someone is telling all the things you cna’t do, that’s negative reinforcement.  You are looking for someone to lift you up, not pull you down.

It’s not just in bad times that your friends should support you. Some people are great when your whole world is falling apart,  but are not happy for you when things are going right.  In a healthy relationship, your real friends are there in good times and bad.

Is your relationship fair and equal?  But you’ll know if it isn’t a pretty fair balance. Things get bad really fast when a relationship turns into a power struggle, with one person fighting to get his or her way all the time.  In a healthy relationship, everyone needs to make compromises. But that doesn’t mean you should feel like you’re losing out on being yourself.

A relationship is unhealthy when it involves mean, disrespectful, controlling, or abusive behavior. Some people live in homes with parents who fight a lot or abuse each other — emotionally, verbally, or physically. For some people who have grown up around this kind of behavior it can almost seem normal or OK. It’s not!  Qualities like kindnes

s and respect are absolute requirements for a healthy relationship.

 

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